Get To The Good Stuff
Let’s talk about how you can get to the “good stuff” of life, whether it’s in your creative work, relationships, spiritual life, or anything else.
We don’t always realize it, but most of us live our lives on the surface level. We talk about the weather, we write an idea down once and then move on. But what would happen if you went a little deeper?
What would you uncover in your own life if you took the time to get past what you normally talk about and start discussing what matters most to you or what excites you? What would your life look like if you started creating from a place of vulnerability and openness?
Keep scrolling and we’ll teach you how to have more meaningful conversations and what’s actually required to dive deeper into any area of your life. Lastly we’ll walk you through 4 simple steps you can take to get to the really good stuff in any area of life.
Now, let’s get to the good stuff!
How To Have More Meaningful Conversations
Let’s talk about how you can dive deeper into your conversations so they can become much more meaningful and enjoyable!
First you need to understand your WHY. Why do you want to have more meaningful conversations? Why is that important to you?
Once you understand your why, you can then read the person you’re wanting to chat with and find out if you can have a deeper more meaningful conversation with them.
Sometimes you just know when someone is a deep-conversation type of person and you can just dive right in by asking a question like:
“What have you been reading/thinking about/working on?”
Other times you might not know how willing someone is to be a little more open or vulnerable so it might require you to be a little more sneaky in those conversations. :)
“Do you like what you do for work? Would you ever want to do anything else?”
“What do you think about ____ (current event or movie or conversation happening in the world)?”
Watch for topics you can grab onto and go deeper with.
Being willing to scale back into more comfortable territory if they seem hesitant or uncomfortable.
A few extra tips for great conversations:
Be fully present. (What does that look like for you? Ex. Putting your phone down, making eye contact, not multi-tasking etc.)
Work on timing.
Be sure to call or chat with someone when you both have time to dive a little deeper. (This could look like calling at a certain time when you know you won’t be interrupted, calling during someone’s commute, talking when tummies are full or you’re well rested)
Keep practicing!
What’s Required To Get The Good Stuff
Here are a list of things that have really helped us dive a little deeper into any area of our lives. See if there are any here you might want to practice or try using more often.
Having a willingness to take charge or initiative (The “good stuff” doesn’t usually appear by accident. It requires action!)
Having a willingness to go deeper (This requires vulnerability and you might have to retrain your brain to do this.)
Communicate clearly what it is that you want out of this time (This could be to yourself, a person you’re having a conversation with, your creativity etc.)
You have to choose your actions (Decide what to say, what not to say and what’s the most meaningful to you.)
You don’t have to know the exact outcome, but showing up with a certain energy and desire is helpful.
A sense of curiosity (This could look like asking really good questions.)
Listening (Think of responding to something or someone thoughtfully instead of reacting.)
A willingness to listen with intent of following through or changing.
Taking out any unnecessary fluff or fillers that distract or take up precious time
Redirect if needed or appropriate (This helps you stay on track with whatever it is you’re wanting to dive deeper into—creativity, conversations, parenting etc.)
Consistently “showing up” (This takes repetition and practice, but you can do it and it’s totally worth it!)
How You Can Get To The Good Stuff
In 4 Simple Steps
Think of what area you’d like to dive deeper into (creativity, conversations, a goal you’re working on, teaching, parenting, self care etc)
Find your WHY
Why is it important that you get to the good stuff?
What does “getting to the good stuff” or “diving deeper” mean for you in that area and what could that look like?
Being willing to go deeper into a lesson you’re teaching
Being willing to get vulnerable
Listen to your intuition
Removing any fillers or distractions and focusing on what matters most
How could you start practicing this more often?
We’ve noticed such a difference in our own lives when we’ve taken the time to dive a little deeper into our conversations, spiritual practice and creative work.
It’s amazing what you can uncover when you’re willing to get past what’s on the surface and find the gems hidden underneath.
Hope this helps you!
Kristin + Laura
Listen to the content below
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Episode #167 Get To The Good Stuff
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